Whether you're raising a family, building a business, or navigating life's ever-changing seasons, investing in the long-term vision of your relationship is a MUST.
It's easy to get caught up in the hustle of daily life – managing schedules, parenting, running businesses. But when we fail to focus on the long term, we risk losing sight of why we choose our partner in the first place.
Sometimes we think, “We're fine right now. Why complicate things?”
But fine isn't the goal. Connection, alignment, and growth are.
Future-focused growth requires a shift from reactive decision-making to intentional choices…together. In this very last part of our marriage series, my husband Eric and I discuss the steps we take to commit to keeping our marriage strong and powerful for the future.
TL;DR? Listen to the podcast episode instead!
5 Ways to Grow Your Marriage Beyond The Everyday
1. Get Clear on Your Shared Vision
Before you can take action towards your future together, it’s so important to have a vision you both are aligned with.
As I mentioned in the podcast: “We can’t expect to feel connected if we’re not taking the time to dream together.”
What does a successful future look like to each of you?
Often, the answer will differ, but that’s the beauty of partnership. By discussing your individual visions, you can craft a shared dream that includes elements of both perspectives.
Start with conversations that uncover shared goals and personal aspirations. This builds alignment and motivation to work as a team.
Ask these simple questions:
Where do you see us five years from now?
How do you want to feel about our marriage a decade from now?
What do you think we're doing right today that sets us up for tomorrow?
2. Growth Comes Through the Small, Everyday Choices
Building for the future doesn't mean grand gestures or life-altering changes overnight.
Instead, it’s the little things: consistent conversations, learning together, and celebrating progress.
"It's in the conversations where neither of us had all the answers. Those were the moments that grew us the most because we had to figure it out together."
With that being said…be intentional with your time.
Whether it’s committing to a weekly check-in or creating a monthly space to reflect on your goals, these small actions accumulate over time.
3. Embrace Challenges as Part of the Growth Process
No relationship grows without its fair share of challenges, and that's okay.
What matters is how you face them together.
Challenges can feel overwhelming, but they also present an opportunity to realign. There should be two parts to approaching these challenges:
Approaching challenges with curiosity instead of defensiveness can transform how you navigate tough times.
When we hit a tough spot, it isn’t about 'winning' the argument; it’s about asking, 'What is this trying to teach us?' That mindset changed everything.
A strong marriage requires more than surface-level talk.
Learning to express your feelings, listen to your partner's needs, and tackle hard topics with care will help you understand how to navigate together when challenges arise.
Eric and I suggest asking open-ended questions like, “What’s something I can do to support you this week?” These small shifts in communication make a big impact over time.
4. Stay Curious About Each Other
People grow and change, individually and within a relationship.
Staying curious about your partner’s evolving dreams, needs, and thoughts ensures that your marriage grows with you.
Because, we’re not just coexisting…we’re building a life together.
When we take the time to ask each other questions, to really listen and explore where we’re each headed, we keep our relationship strong.
5. Commit to Growing Together
Growth doesn’t happen by chance.
It’s a choice, one you have to be committed to doing the work on, together, every single day.
Why?
For Eric and I, the future we’re building now doesn’t just belong to us. It’s something we’re shaping for the legacy we leave behind, for our kids and their kids, too.
You’re growing to shape something bigger than yourselves, so consider what else you can do to continue to grow.
Couples who thrive intentionally invest in their relationship. This could mean attending a retreat together, traveling together, reading books on relationships, or simply carving out time to dream and plan as a couple.
The idea is to continuously grow together, not apart!
Marriage isn’t static, and the work you put in today creates a foundation for tomorrow. If this series resonates with you, whether you listened to the episodes or read the blogs, start implementing one of these practices this week.
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